Currently in my Motivation class. Monday morning? Yea, how impressive. Nothing much though, just wondering despite all the nods, behind those sleepy faces, who is literally paying full attention on the lecture? Are those who nods? The sleepyheads? Or.. no one? Me? Excuse me, I am paying 101% less attention to be sure.
Got to admit that I couldn't absorb much inputs today. All these theories seems to not working well on me. On the other hand, piles of assignments are getting themselves busy to trigger anxiety and stress in the hypothalamus, crashing onto my brain cell, pushing me out of my track, feeling so anxious for still having so many things to do. The due dates are just so close to one another, keeping me more anxious though!
Above all, we still need to undergo life as so. "Working is therapeutic". You would grasp miscellany of knowledge from em. You could boost your self esteem, nurture your talents and skills, & yet, amend your self-development to an immensely higher level. Believe in 'Do what you love, love what you do'. Enjoy what you do, for a better performance towards your jobs. Nail it guys!
Are you happy to be born as Malaysian?
A sudden thought lingers on my mind obnoxiously craving for an answer. Despite the tremendous ups and downs we all had to confront together now, does it loosen your loves towards your motherland? I bumped into some groups of people where they thought that, life could have been better if they were not born here. They insists on how embarrassed they are to hold the nationality. Some decides to migrate, and half were already are.
Personally, I understand how some people tend to not favor the rights they garnered ever since. I understand that at some point the Malays & Bumiputera gains better rights than the others. I understand how we are contemporaneously living being manipulated by those creatures with powers and $$. I do aware on the differences we may encounter between one another. I comprehend that you hate the countrys' political system (or even the PM.. or the wife. sorry). Also, I appreciate how everyone puts so much efforts in making changes. Also, I truly fathom on how unhappy you are with the countrys' developments even when we are already heading to our 60 years of independence.
But, pardon me, I do think that it is yet inappropriate to downgrade your homeland. Our home. Sometimes we just have to accept someone or something just for themselves. Same goes with Malaysia. Regardless the economical downpours, corruptions, dirty politics, racism and other issues, please never ever rub salt into the wounds. Not that I meant that we have to simply ignore and let them spoon-fed us with the negativity.
Yeah, go. Work for a better nation. Congregate in a rally, sign partitions, show what you need, what you want, express it all out. But, please don't proudly divulge to the world on how dreadful your country are. Some parts of it is still, very accommodating. Again, I understand everyones' rights. But making fun of your own land, belittle em to the world wont upgrade you to a better being, either. No issue over freedom of speech, but do it productively.
But, pardon me, I do think that it is yet inappropriate to downgrade your homeland. Our home. Sometimes we just have to accept someone or something just for themselves. Same goes with Malaysia. Regardless the economical downpours, corruptions, dirty politics, racism and other issues, please never ever rub salt into the wounds. Not that I meant that we have to simply ignore and let them spoon-fed us with the negativity.
Yeah, go. Work for a better nation. Congregate in a rally, sign partitions, show what you need, what you want, express it all out. But, please don't proudly divulge to the world on how dreadful your country are. Some parts of it is still, very accommodating. Again, I understand everyones' rights. But making fun of your own land, belittle em to the world wont upgrade you to a better being, either. No issue over freedom of speech, but do it productively.
"Reach Out, Save Lives" - #BefriendersKL
I gained lots of great insights from 'Preventing Suicides: Reaching Out & Saving Lives' Public Forum organized by BefriendersKL which I attended last weekend. Proud to successfully pushed myself out to attend a public talk on a Saturday morning though and glad that it was all worth it, thank you! I listened to both amazing speakers, Dr Philip George & Ms Lee Kuan Shin, as a Consultant Psychiatrist & a Clinical Psychologist respectively.
Talking about suicide though, as a normal being, I have totally no idea how severe suicide is seems to be within the country Malaysia, around the globe, even in the neighborhood. I have never encounter such situation before, therefore it seems partially hard for me to absorb what is actually happening to the person who commits suicide. I read news, I watched em on tv. Neither triggers such sympathy in me towards them. I bluntly thought that suicide is their own choices to escape; to end their suffers, the over-flowing pain. They chose that way eventually & why should we bother?
However, as you grew older, as time ticks, as you space up to understand the real situation, you will realized how suicide works. It will influence how you see and your cognitive beliefs on the fact that,
Talking about suicide though, as a normal being, I have totally no idea how severe suicide is seems to be within the country Malaysia, around the globe, even in the neighborhood. I have never encounter such situation before, therefore it seems partially hard for me to absorb what is actually happening to the person who commits suicide. I read news, I watched em on tv. Neither triggers such sympathy in me towards them. I bluntly thought that suicide is their own choices to escape; to end their suffers, the over-flowing pain. They chose that way eventually & why should we bother?
However, as you grew older, as time ticks, as you space up to understand the real situation, you will realized how suicide works. It will influence how you see and your cognitive beliefs on the fact that,
- 800,000 people died of suicides every year, 2000 every day, 90 every hour, 40 in every secs
- Globally, in 2020, studies assume that there would be 1 death in every 20 seconds
- Suicide is ranked #2 as a leading cause of death within the age of 15-29
- 1 over 5 children suffer mental illness
- 80-90% died from suicide is caused by depression
- 6-33% of children have thought about suicide with a ratio of M:F // 5:1
We tend to neglect mental health issue. Up to this moment, I promised myself to keep my mind free, reach out to those who might silently or openly attempting suicide and to those who are depressed. It's crucial to end suicide & mental illness stigma. Reach out their hands and help them! Pay extra attention and give our best to understand people around us, deeply and affectionately.
I'll, you'll bear this pain
You always thought that there is no reason to give in when it comes to someone significant, someone you love the most. You wont mind losing in fights. You don't really bother being teased around often, you don't mind sparing your time for them. But, why they don't lose themselves to fight for you? Why they got offended when you tease them? Why weren't they here when you need them? Yes, it could be extremely painful, thinking on how important they are to you, how you prioritize them before anyone else. You rather kept everything inside you when they hurt you instantly, even when you have nobody to lend yourself to. Amazingly, you still choose to lose a fight than loosing them.
HappyBirthdayAmanda
Aug 8, 2015. I have nothing else to say than expressing a spark of gratefulness to God, for lending me such a great people in my life. Thank you to my beloved family, #SISTERS (my high school best friends) and to thePsychos (my college mates) for all the surprises, balloons, cakes, and excitements!
I realized that they didn't take all the littlest thing about me for granted. I am not a fan of cakes but Chocolate Indulgence from Secret Recipe is an exception, same goes to cheesecake, but I'll go fine with the Oreo flavor. My favorite topping for pizza is pepperoni & my usual order whenever I go lepak at the cafes, is Iced Chocolate if theres no Bandung/Iced Lemon Tea/Ribena! Not to forget the balloons. And surprisingly I am amazed to see how they pampered me with all these stuffs. I appreciated every single thing that they have done for me. I really am.
Life has taught me to pay more attention on those who are willing to make efforts for me regardless in what way it could be. Even the slightest thing matters though. I don't need all the luxurious gifts you prolly could afford. Sparing a little time & thoughts for me, at least on my birthday, sparks joy.
Once again, thank you. I love everyone unconditionally.
Once again, thank you. I love everyone unconditionally.
Flush away hatreds, & negativity.
Talking about putting yourself into someone else' shoes hold me so much in depth to not bluntly pour words without enhancing emotional-concern as the main priority. Sometimes, I choose to emotionally-hurt myself than hurting someone else'. (Not an angel) but as far as I'm concerned, I could soothe myself easier, to forgive (& forget) faster, so never mind people! It's on me! Having the urge to hurt someones' feelings and to know that they won't forgive you sounds much more worrying to me though. (eventho it could be their friggin faults) *cough*
Well, perhaps it is just another way for me to increase my level of happiness. To get mad with someone or to keep a grudge on somebody will simply blurt out negative hormones that would injects negativity to the body. Therefore, I choose not to burden myself with all those bad vibes. I choose to be happy and in order to be happy, I have to REALLY be one.
I do appreciate the 'extra boost' that God have lend it to me, to have that sense of empathy in order to forgive and to forget more easily. I definitely have no idea how to get mad for a long period of time; or to simply go run amok, cursing onto people's face who ruined my day.
Well, perhaps it is just another way for me to increase my level of happiness. To get mad with someone or to keep a grudge on somebody will simply blurt out negative hormones that would injects negativity to the body. Therefore, I choose not to burden myself with all those bad vibes. I choose to be happy and in order to be happy, I have to REALLY be one.
So why do we have to let the mind connected miserably with all those hatreds and grudges. If they ruin your day, or your life, just force yourself to ignore them. YOU, have better things to do. Focus on yourself. Don't add in extra joss to your feelings and turns everything upside down, because at the end of the day, it is only you, your heart and your body that matters most.
Spread loves, flush away all the hatreds and negativity.
The crucial part of 'Sit&Listen'
To be ones' ears help us to value things better. If you spare a little time of yourself to listen, to understand someones, you will be prone to improve & improvise yourself into ethically and psychologically-ameliorate. By the stories shared by them, you will know how offended someone could be over certain things, even the silliest ones. So you'll learn not to say things bluntly onto people face. You will know that some people went through a real hard time, so you now realize how affected someones' could be caught under certain circumstances. You will now realize how grateful you are, to be compared to them. Besides, you will get the opportunity to witness even the toughest person get hurt eventually. Obviously, don't take them for granted regardless how tough they seems to be.
So lets be a listener more. Lend your ears & attention to someone you are close with. Trust me you won't lose anything. Even though you may not be giving much of help towards the person himself, at least they can help you change your own perspectives. Don't get me wrong, this is not you taking advantage on their trusts to you.
Do know that sometimes the person insists to talk without actually hoping for a verbal response unless they asks for solutions/recommendations/advice. They just want you to sit and listen. You can be that one good being, ones could ever have!
Add on:
If you want to train yourself to be a good listener, this is a good article to read on:
I HEAR YOU: 5 TIPS BEING A GOOD LISTENER
So lets be a listener more. Lend your ears & attention to someone you are close with. Trust me you won't lose anything. Even though you may not be giving much of help towards the person himself, at least they can help you change your own perspectives. Don't get me wrong, this is not you taking advantage on their trusts to you.
Do know that sometimes the person insists to talk without actually hoping for a verbal response unless they asks for solutions/recommendations/advice. They just want you to sit and listen. You can be that one good being, ones could ever have!
Add on:
If you want to train yourself to be a good listener, this is a good article to read on:
I HEAR YOU: 5 TIPS BEING A GOOD LISTENER
Why psychology
I know what I love and what my passion is. I would be running over the things that would make myself happy, because to have the opportunity to do what you love is undoubtedly mesmerizing. I am curious about human minds and behaviors. You know, like why they think or behave such ways.. So, psychology it is!
Well psychology taught me to be a good listener, an optimist, to be someone with a high sense of empathy and positivism. We don't read minds. We're not psychics. We tend to find deeper understanding on you. On the other hand, we were trained to always be the ears for someone else. Besides fitting ourselves in their shoes regardless the sizes, even if we didn't adore the pattern. It doesn't matter how it looks like. We ought to just bare with it!
Well no, it is not a burden. It is very well, exciting. Very interesting field, indeed, because you are working with human beings. Whats not fun about human, though?
Passion
"To be a good writer, you have to keep writing" - Anonymous
In order to be one, I always get (/forced) myself involved in writing competitions. I know that I am not capable enough, but I believe that there is no harm in trying. It is a way to challenge myself as to improve. By then I won't lose anything, but gain. So, why not.
Regardless the fact that my piece would go unpublished or winning a comp, I am still happy for myself. Either way was anxious and delightful. All these mixed-feelings bottled up inside me, upholds and motivates me to keep on writing more.
Even though my writings are yet too far from good, with minimal knowledge about what's good actually. It should have not be seen as barriers. Even though my words vocab weren't as wide, as powerful as others, it wont stop me from stepping ahead. My passion towards writing is flowing vigorously in me. Like, I have do it though.
Same goes to you. Don't be afraid to sparks out your passion, Mastering it comes second. Whats important is for you to know yourself and to dig out your potential skills. You don't have to be good beforehand. As for now, if you have it, then do it.
#HundredHundred Writing Challenge
The latest competition that I've challenged myself in was the #HundredHundred Writing Challenge (Theme: Frustration) by Englishjer for Cooler Lumpur Festival 2015. Words should not be less or more than 100 words. It got to be exactly one-hundred. The good news was, my piece was chosen as the Top 100 that had been exhibited at Publika, last June. Thank you EJ!
Here's to the lucky piece,
Here's to the lucky piece,
Oh How Should I Please You?
You belittle people as you wish and they changed because of you. Then you depreciate them for being someone they don't belong to. It is true, they might go overboard sometimes yet you do nothing better than making fun of them. Tired of being someone who's precluded most of the time, they wish to be wondrous. They are hungry for attention and acceptance. But have you ever ponder why they behave such ways? Ironic.
'You want them to be themselves but when they be, you talk bad about them.
Now when they tried to be someone else, you still do.'
Hi self.
To a certain extent, talking to yourself may be a symptomatic signs for schizophrenia or other mental disorders but no, it is not always a bad sign. A fair amount of talking to yourself is normal and healthy. It is a positive practice that would lift you up, bloom your gloomy days, and motivates your soul.
After all, you know yourself better. You know how to make yourself feels good. However, if this practice interfere some aspects of your psychological thoughts (negatively), you may need to refer that to the experts.
Every morning, look at you in the mirror, communicate positively with your inner self. Compliments yourself. Prepare your body and your mind for a brand new day ahead you. Not forgetting to thank yourself for the day you have gone through, for the efforts you have shown every night.
No matter how great or gloomy your days are,
keep on communicating with yourself,
motivates yourself. Feels good about yourself.
Read More: 9 Surprising Benefits of Talking to Yourself
After all, you know yourself better. You know how to make yourself feels good. However, if this practice interfere some aspects of your psychological thoughts (negatively), you may need to refer that to the experts.
Every morning, look at you in the mirror, communicate positively with your inner self. Compliments yourself. Prepare your body and your mind for a brand new day ahead you. Not forgetting to thank yourself for the day you have gone through, for the efforts you have shown every night.
No matter how great or gloomy your days are,
keep on communicating with yourself,
motivates yourself. Feels good about yourself.
Read More: 9 Surprising Benefits of Talking to Yourself
A comeback? iGuess.
Oh wow, my last post was on January and its already July now! July 7, it is. So it has been a very long time though. Life has been good so far. Currently struggling in my Summer semester for my American degree, fasting as it Ramadhan falls and excitedly, counting down to Hari Raya. Personally, I didn't realized how much I miss blogging until my Writing for Media' lecturer asked us to create a blog and starts writing, and here I am now!
Thank you, Prof. I shall write a post for you someday.
Thank you, Prof. I shall write a post for you someday.
'just be yourself' -they said
I often hear people buzzing around sayings like 'stop trying so hard, it brings you nowhere. just be yourself, peoples gotta love you just the way you are'. Well, somehow I found it vulnerable seeing those people whom literally, feels insecure about themselves. The world itself is not vicious. It's our faults anyway, Blame the beings! Ok, the thing is they try to look beautiful, be extrovert, act cool, be fit just because the society wants it that way. We forgot how society and the people in it rules life. HOW WE RULES LIFE, apparently. When they want to be themselves, people starts criticizing around saying bad things over but in the other way round, we asks them to be themselves. Irony isn't it? We have to take a moment and reflect. 'Did I in any chance let them be themselves?' Did I appreciate what they have and who they are as a person? Everyone is unique. You don't have to be anyone else in order to be different, because you are already are. Give spaces guys. Accept one another as whom it is. Spread love.
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