Flush away hatreds, & negativity.

Talking about putting yourself into someone else' shoes hold me so much in depth to not bluntly pour words without enhancing emotional-concern as the main priority. Sometimes, I choose to emotionally-hurt myself than hurting someone else'. (Not an angel) but as far as I'm concerned, I could soothe myself easier, to forgive (& forget) faster, so never mind people! It's on me! Having the urge to hurt someones' feelings and to know that they won't forgive you sounds much more worrying to me though. (eventho it could be their friggin faults) *cough*

                     

I do appreciate the 'extra boost' that God have lend it to me, to have that sense of empathy in order to forgive and to forget more easily. I definitely have no idea how to get mad for a long period of time; or to simply go run amok, cursing onto people's face who ruined my day.

     
Well, perhaps it is just another way for me to increase my level of happiness. To get mad with someone or to keep a grudge on somebody will simply blurt out negative hormones that would injects negativity to the body. Therefore, I choose not to burden myself with all those bad vibes. I choose to be happy and in order to be happy, I have to REALLY be one.

So why do we have to let the mind connected miserably with all those hatreds and grudges. If they ruin your day, or your life, just force yourself to ignore them. YOU, have better things to do. Focus on yourself. Don't add in extra joss  to your feelings and turns everything upside down, because at the end of the day, it is only you, your heart and your body that matters most. 

Spread loves, flush away all the hatreds and negativity. 

The crucial part of 'Sit&Listen'

To be ones' ears help us to value things better. If you spare a little time of yourself to listen, to understand someones, you will be prone to improve & improvise yourself into ethically and psychologically-ameliorate. By the stories shared by them, you will know how offended someone could be over certain things, even the silliest ones. So you'll learn not to say things bluntly onto people face. You will know that some people went through a real hard time, so you now realize how affected someones' could be caught under certain circumstances. You will now realize how grateful you are, to be compared to them. Besides, you will get the opportunity to witness even the toughest person get hurt eventually. Obviously, don't take them for granted regardless how tough they seems to be.

So lets be a listener more. Lend your ears & attention to someone you are close with. Trust me you won't lose anything. Even though you may not be giving much of help towards the person himself, at least they can help you change your own perspectives. Don't get me wrong, this is not you taking advantage on their trusts to you.

Do know that sometimes the person insists to talk without actually hoping for a verbal response unless they asks for solutions/recommendations/advice. They just want you to sit and listen. You can be that one good being, ones could ever have!

Add on:
If you want to train yourself to be a good listener, this is a good article to read on:
I HEAR YOU: 5 TIPS BEING A GOOD LISTENER

Why psychology

I know what I love and what my passion is. I would be running over the things that would make myself happy, because to have the opportunity to do what you love is undoubtedly mesmerizing. I am curious about human minds and behaviors. You know, like why they think or behave such ways.. So, psychology it is!

Well psychology taught me to be a good listener, an optimist, to be someone with a high sense of empathy and positivism. We don't read minds. We're not psychics. We tend to find deeper understanding on you. On the other hand, we were trained to always be the ears for someone else. Besides fitting ourselves in their shoes regardless the sizes, even if we didn't adore the pattern. It doesn't matter how it looks like. We ought to just bare with it! 

Well no, it is not a burden. It is very well, exciting. Very interesting field, indeed, because you are working with human beings. Whats not fun about human, though? 

Passion

"To be a good writer, you have to keep writing" - Anonymous 

In order to be one, I always get (/forced) myself involved in writing competitions. I know that I am not capable enough, but I believe that there is no harm in trying. It is a way to challenge myself as to improve. By then I won't lose anything, but gain. So, why not. 

Regardless the fact that my piece would go unpublished or winning a comp, I am still happy for myself. Either way was anxious and delightful. All these mixed-feelings bottled up inside me, upholds and motivates me to keep on writing more.

Even though my writings are yet too far from good, with minimal knowledge about what's good actually. It should have not be seen as barriers. Even though my words vocab weren't as wide, as powerful as others, it wont stop me from stepping ahead. My passion towards writing is flowing vigorously in me. Like, I have do it though. 

Same goes to you. Don't be afraid to sparks out your passion, Mastering it comes second. Whats important is for you to know yourself and to dig out your potential skills. You don't have to be good beforehand. As for now, if you have it, then do it. 

#HundredHundred Writing Challenge

The latest competition that I've challenged myself in was the #HundredHundred Writing Challenge (Theme: Frustration) by Englishjer for Cooler Lumpur Festival 2015. Words should not be less or more than 100 words. It got to be exactly one-hundred. The good news was, my piece was chosen as the Top 100 that had been exhibited at Publika, last June. Thank you EJ!

Here's to the lucky piece,

Oh How Should I Please You?

You belittle people as you wish and they changed because of you. Then you depreciate them for being someone they don't belong to. It is true, they might go overboard sometimes yet you do nothing better than making fun of them. Tired of being someone who's precluded most of the time, they wish to be wondrous. They are hungry for attention and acceptance. But have you ever ponder why they behave such ways? Ironic. 

'You want them to be themselves but when they be, you talk bad about them. 

Now when they tried to be someone else, you still do.'

Hi self.

To a certain extent, talking to yourself may be a symptomatic signs for schizophrenia or other mental disorders but no, it is not always a bad sign. A fair amount of talking to yourself is normal and healthy. It is a positive practice that would lift you up, bloom your gloomy days, and motivates your soul.

After all, you know yourself better. You know how to make yourself feels good. However, if this practice interfere some aspects of your psychological thoughts (negatively), you may need to refer that to the experts.

Every morning, look at you in the mirror, communicate positively with your inner self. Compliments yourself. Prepare your body and your mind for a brand new day ahead you. Not forgetting to thank yourself for the day you have gone through, for the efforts you have shown every night.

No matter how great or gloomy your days are,
keep on communicating with yourself,
motivates yourself. Feels good about yourself.


Read More: 9 Surprising Benefits of Talking to Yourself

A comeback? iGuess.

Oh wow, my last post was on January and its already July now! July 7, it is. So it has been a very long time though. Life has been good so far. Currently struggling in my Summer semester for my American degree, fasting as it Ramadhan falls and excitedly, counting down to Hari Raya. Personally, I didn't realized how much I miss blogging until my Writing for Media' lecturer asked us to create a blog and starts writing, and here I am now!

Thank you, Prof. I shall write a post for you someday.